FEATURE:
And So Is Love
PHOTO CREDIT: John Carder Bush
How Kate Bush Can Affect and Influence Relationships and Human Understanding
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MAYBE it is obvious…
PHOTO CREDIT: John Carder Bush
but I sort of feel like there is this natural attraction when you discover that someone loves the same artist as you. Not to say there should be a Kate Bush dating club but, as she is a big part of my life and someone very important to me, I do gravitate towards people who have a similar affection for her. Not that it is a deal-breaker at all, though I do sort of getting miffed when someone says they have never heard of Kate Bush or they sort of muddle and think where they have heard her from. Not that I would ever distance myself from someone who does not know who Kate Bush is or does not like her. However, those who know Kate Bush and dig her music understand why she is so important and why her complete and incredible catalogue should be heard. People have definitely fallen in love over their mutual respect for Kate Bush. I don’t think there is any website or club specific enough that would bring Kate Bush fans together. However, as someone who is single and music and Kate Bush are major parts of my life, I do think that someone I end up will at least understand Kate Bush. Not that they would be as obsessive necessarily. It is interesting considering people who get together based on their love of particular artists. Or just form friendships. I live in London and do not know many people who know that much about Kate Bush. Where I work, most of my colleagues have a tiny bit of knowledge. Wider afield, it can be a bit hit-and-miss. There is that mixed blessing of being able to talk about her and maybe introduce her but also that thing that people do not know about Bush. Even with Stranger Things giving Running Up That Hill (A Deal with God) a boost, there is a feint moment of recognition but not much beyond that. No memories of her wider work.
This is not a feature about a quest to date someone who loves Kate Bush. More broadly, I am fascinated by Kate Bush’s music and how it approaches love. How she writes about it. I do think her songs about relationships and love can affect people and their relationships. I am writing another feature about how her music is largely positive. How there are very few of her songs that are negative or attack people. In a 1989 interview with NME, Kate Bush suggested that pretty much everything she wrote was a love song:
“To Kate Bush, sensuality is obviously a positive, receptive, natural experience, far removed from Happy Mondays-style chemistry-set hedonism. Check that video, "walking through these woods, with the weather changing, the elemental energies of the earth, wind, pollen, sunset, bite of hail, continually walking through the same environment with that sense of the changing world".
To the believer this is real sensuality, communion with nature, oneness with the earth. To the cynic it’s a load of hippie shit in any language. And predictably, at the centre of the whole philosophy, there’s the doctrine of, yes, love. So choose your path carefully, children…
"Love is a wonderful powerful thing," trills Kate, without a hint of Fotherington-Thomas. "In many ways nearly every song I’ve ever written is a love song. It’s very important to try and learn to love people as much as you can. But we all get so scared. It’s only when people are at points in their lives when they get such shocks that they take it as it really should be. The rest of us just seem to piss about”.
I think her songs of love and desire go beyond the commercial and traditional. I do think that nearly everything Kate Bush has written is about love and relationships,. However, unlike most artists, Bush adds something deeper and more interesting. Cinema, literary and fantasy run through songs that are also very human and emotional.
The lyrics and vocals in these songs can affect relationships. I think they make us think about love and connections in different ways. The way in which she writes about people and the observations she makes. You can say this applies to so many artists but, when I think of Kate Bush, her hugely expressive voice conveys a wide range of emotions; creating a sound that is both unique and personally resonant for listeners. I have changed the way I form friendships and view people after listening to Kate Bush’s music. I would like to think I feel more deeply about the world and appreciate the complexities of people. Even though Kate Bush’s songs are largely positive, it is not like she sugar-coats or glosses over things. She does spotlight darker realities and elements. In terms of personal relationships, even though I am single, I think I am less depressed and down about it. Kate Bush was in a long-term relationship with Del Palmer and had some shorter relationships, She had these close friendships too. Where she would write about these now and then, for the most part, I feel Bush was keener to turn the focus to other people. I don’t think any other artists writes as arrestingly and interestingly about love as Kate Bush. I am someone who struggles a bit with social cues and can find it intimidating being in social situations. Maybe it is her voice or how she delivers her songs, though I think I have become braver and less timid because of her. Also, where I used to stress and blame myself for being single, Bush has made me realise a number of things. Complexities of relationships and people. Their good nature too. I think I have discovered more about the human condition and the nuances of human beings through Kate Bush’s music. Her songs of love and desire have given me so much. Maybe made me a kinder and more patient person. One might ask how that is possible. I think it is her use of language and the way she sings these songs that I carry around with me.
In terms of the way I approach people in terms of temperament and tolerance, I often draw from Kate Bush’s music. Maybe not her love songs. However, it is the imagination and intelligence in her lyrics that has released something deep inside of me. In terms of specific examples, I often refer to Hounds of Love’s title track. I am writing about that soon as it turns forty in February. How there is this self-confession of timidity and cowardice. Such a brave thing to reveal in a song! I am more honest with myself and less ashamed to reveal things like flaws and cowardice. I think I am more world-conscious because of Kate Bush. Thinking more deeply about other people and those less fortunate. Perhaps more affectingly, putting myself in someone else’s shoes. Not only nodding to Running Up That Hill (A Deal with God), there are many examples of where Kate Bush sings about patience, understanding and tolerance. Psychologically and emotionally fascinating, there are entire articles you could write about her lyrics and human relationships. When Kate Bush is being personal about love and loss, there is not this aggression or blaming. Tender but heartfelt, this has definitely affected me. Maybe her music does not have the ability for me to find a relationship and overcome psychological issues that affect me. When Pete Paphides wrote about his experience of seeing Kate Bush live for Before the Dawn, a couple of his thoughts struck me: “Few musicians are more adept at conveying a sense that something good is going to happen than Kate Bush”; “Once again, we’re reminded that, almost uniquely among her peers, Kate Bush goes to extraordinary lengths in search of subjects that hold up that magic of living up to the light for just long enough to think that we can reach it”.
There is a lot in that. I feel I am less pessimistic and catastrophising because of Kate Bush and her positive nature. It is not only her music. Listening to interviews, she is always so warm, kind and accessible. That sense of making us feeling something good is going to happen undoubtably has impacted my relationships with other people. From the potential of being in a relationship one day to being kinder and more patient with others, I have Kate Bush to thank to a degree. We all fall in love with Kate Bush for different reasons. In 2022, The Guardian spoke with various artists about their experiences. Something Rae Morris said is very true: “Her music is all about combining small details with spiritual, otherworldly, wider cinemascape stuff: a really grand, imaginative to-the-moon-and-back scale, but also the sound of the blood running through your veins”. I also think I understand that love and a true relationship cannot be rushed. That maybe it is not the most important thing. By learning to think about people more positively or patiently, maybe it makes me less desperate to be in a relationship so I have that ally and can sort of escape. However, there is escapism in Kate Bush’s music that means, when the worst of humanity and people drags me down, I can cope and immerse myself in her unique and welcoming universe. Her music is so enriching and inspiring! Maybe circling back to my first thoughts. It would be cool if I met a woman who was a fan of Kate Bush and there was this club or website where you could meet people like-minded. I am not going to stress about it. When thinking about who I am as a person, how I interact with people and how I view independence and love concurrently, Kate Bush’s music has affected and changed me so much. In positive ways. This incredible artist, in so many ways, has given me…
SO much.
